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jezz - 2002-04-20 19:22:58
paw, your daughter will do a lot of this ... it is her age, she is truly discovering herself as an individual, natural for her age. My daughter is now 17 and some think she is dis-respectful to me but she is only pretending we spar mentally. When she was the age of your child I had to choices... to act as my own parents did and deny everthing.... or to trust her more and allow her to grow as a person... make her own mistakes. I chose the latter as I did not want her lying and going behind my back. One issue was that if she wanted more freedom, more lee way then she had to take on total responsibility for her actions... Try to think back to how you felt at her age,,, try to empathise rather than criticise, keep the rules just move the goal posts slightly... Treated the right way you will only gain respect. My daughter and I have not had it easy, her father has nothing to do with her, deny's her existence... she respects me for raising her and now we are friends... Not trying to lecture you or tell you your role but you invited comment... if i can help in this in anyway.... jezzebelle
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